Feeling Guilt

These days since I have become a Lazy Bum... My bum refused to get up in the morning... My mind refuses to accept that I need to get ready to office... I feel lethargic :'(

Also sine I know if I miss my usual 6:45 AM cab to office my sweet hubby will drop me, either to a nearest bus stop or to the Office directly depending on the situation and time.This has made me more and more Lazier.... I have been doing like this since a month now...

Today being Monday was one of those days where my Bum refused to raise from the Bed, my body refused to get up as it needed more sleep... I aksed hubby dear and he promised me to drop... Overcome by the joy of sleeping more I overslept and woke up very late that hubby had to drop me to Office (Plz note there is no direct bus to office and it I dont reach by 11:00 AM, I cannot leave office by the 5:15 bus, 25 kms to office and 6 hrs work is manditory,grrrrrrrrrrr)

Got up late, had quick shower, performed pooja and ran upstairs to prepare our Morning tea and to collect our Dabba's. Since weekend was lil hectic couldnt arrange my bag too, In a hurry to leave I just shoved my handbag and our lunchboxes to the car and completely forgot abt hubby's stuff..

Filled diesel enroute to office and ate dosa's on the way... When I was 2 mins away from Office, poor hubby realised that he has forgotten his Laptop Bag... Guilt rushed inside me as I could have taken care that it was kept in the car... How could I be so mean???? Couldnt I have remembered or atleast reminded him?? Poor hubby had to go back home and call offc leave as it would take another 30-40 kms and 2 hrs to go home collect lappie and reach office.

I am deeply feeling bad and Gulit for this act of mine... :( Sorry Hubby for all the pain

Moral of the Story- Stop being Lazy and push ur Bum out of the bed as soon as the alarm rings... STOP taking for granted that huby will drop you to office, accept that there is no option but to catch ur Office bus @ 6:45 AM  ***Amen!!***

Every day is a new learning experience!

Lessons Learnt- Give More and expect Less!!

Life teaches us so many lessons (Valuable lessons) through very small incidents :)

Give more!!

It feels so nice to help someone, the feeling is great especially when you do it unconditionally without any expectation in you..  I learnt that my Manager's FIL was admitted to Hosmat as he met with a accident while getting down the train and got his legs fractured.
That day I was commuting late to office and I had to pass the hospital enroute office, Suddenly a thought came to me that I should call up my Mgr and ask him how the operation went, learnt from him that the operation was postponed and that they now needed Platelets etc and he was travelling to office and the wife was in the hospital. I immediately without thinking offered him that I shall go to the hospital and meet his wife and see what can be done.

Firstly they were from a different state and did not have any relatives here in Blore and secondly they cannot communicate in the local language which is sometimes a important especially when in such cases.... I offered her (mgr's wife) to go by myself and fetch the samples but she just wanted me to accompany her to the Blood bank to get the platelets while the doctors promised to start the operation immediately. I also learnt that she hadn't eaten anything and hence while waiting for the samples took her to the nearest restaurant and made her eat something while I sipped a cup of tea…
Without remembering the innumerable times the same Mgr has talked bad about me behind me and in front of the entire team consisting even freshers, the innumerable times where I had fought with him due to his indecisive nature, the not so good ratings he gave me.. Without any such thing in mind I pitched in and helped him only because of the humanity consideration and the helping nature that I have… It felt so nice to help someone even though it is a very minor contribution from my side!! Alilu seva in kannada..

Expect Less!!

I was again on leave no this time not a back pain (Touchwood) but it was diarrhea, Not sure when and what I ate or drank that caused me bowel infection and I was like a dead meat on Monday..Weekend was too hectic, packing, cleaning, cooking (absence of cook) and so on and so forth that I had very little rest. On the way to office on Monday in Volvo bus I was sleeeping like a dead pig, felt vomiting sensation, giddy and my entire body went cold, thankfully nothing happened till I reached office, went back home and did not go upstairs as I was completely lacking the energy and wanted rest badly.

Hubby came home soon and picked me up and we took Idli's parcel to home.Hubby went up and informed his parents that I was unwell. @ around 8:00 both my IN-laws came down to see me and talk to me and enquire how I was. They were very much concerned and asked me to go to a doc and also take rest.. This was not at all expected and I felt very very good about their gesture.. I always used to think that they do not know how to show love/Concern and I was proved so wrong..

These small happiness makes life much sweeter especially when you are not expecting... 

Marriage and its Learnings

      Marriage does change so many things in a women's life….Everything fresh n new, It is like starting everything afresh from the scratch….
New environment, new people, new situation, new occasions, new ways of Living, eating habbits etc etc….


Adjustment, compromise,sacrifice are the top three things that come to my mind!!

                     Adjustments to new people, environment,circumstances.

                     Compromises in relationships, situation and thoughts.

                     Sacrificing your needs,desires and wants.

      The sweet sacrifices made, adjusting oneself to the family environment and compromising ones wishes and desires for the loved ones always tastes sweet and never as a burden!! The only thing that the newly wedded bride asks for or expects in turn is the Sweet acceptance and a little pat on the back which she treats it like an appreciation!
Is it too much to ask for????????


      The husband's house will become her home when people in that house treats her one among themselves and accept her..
I am also somones daughter, someones wife and someone's DIL, I also like other women have my own set of wises,desires and expectations in life.


      Adjustments, compromises and Sacrifises are not new to me. Like any other lady I have also been there and done it in my life and after marriage continuing to do it is not at all a big thing coz ultimately you find peace and satisfied coz you know you are with the one whom you always wanted to be with!!


      I always thought "Expressing oneself" is a default character that everyone peoccess and rarely gave a thought that it is indeed a very essential part in a person's life.May be because I come from a family where we express our thoughts, happiness and grief too.. I have defenetely come across people who have not expressed much be it gratitude or remorse.


      No matter how much I have got adjusted,sacrificed and compromised to make this my Home..there is no crumb of appreciation that comes out of my MIL or FIL. When people don’t express their feelings you really don’t know what is running in their minds, Are they happy? Sad? Do they have a problem with me? Are they unhappy with me? Are they pleased with me? Hundreds of such questions pop up in my mind and obviously more oriented towards the negative side. Ohh may be they are not happy with some or the other deed of mine… But which one? Did I commit any mistake? What is my mistake??? When I don’t have answers to this then I start feeling Sad, bad,frustated and finally give up!!


      I used to get up @ 5:30 am prepared breakfast, Pack lunch to Office & run to Office, then came back and prepared Dinner..
Prepared something special on weekends just so that they will be happy and appreciate me… I couldn’t believe how my life had changed after marriage…


      Friends used to enquire @ Offcie… Hey you have prepared this dish so well… Iam sure your In- Laws have appreciated a lot…. I used to just nod but think inside…
Appreciation??? Yeah I waited to hear just 2 words "Its Good" but never got to hear that… There are innumerable times where I have waited like a baby to be appriciated.
Shamelessly asked "How is the food today? Did u like it??? Like every cloud has a Silver lining, MIL's every compliment has a Underlined comment too..


Q- How was the curry did you like it??
Ans1- You could have added some ingredient XYZ…
Me thinking- Y dint you tell me before?
Ans2- Curry is good but the roti was little thick/rough/oily etc..….
Never a plain and simple "Yes is was Good"


         I have started to realise that some people are different and have accepted, but then why taunt when not needed…. Unecessary taunitng,commenting being sarcastic… Is it needed? Wont it hurt? And Why ALWAYS have BENCHMARK???? My daughter is like that, my daughter is like this….. OK well taken but why compare???? Any given situation if I mention- I will prepare this or I will do this… My daughter used to do this, My daughter does this….. God give me a Break!!!!


         FIL- My daughter goes to Bank, so much responsibilities, comes home cooks, takes care of everyone, husband, kids, cleaning, preapring food etc…
Excuse ME Your DIL also goes to job, it is equally stressful, infact travels like a pig, prepares food, takes care of hubby and In laws too,… Your daughter doesn’t even have In laws to be taken care of, Has a helpful hubby who helps her in each n every thing… They are flexible enough to eating, sometimes even walk out to have dinner outside or order something home…. Will you allow all this here??? Then why Compare?????

Lessons Learnt-

• Daughter-In-Law, no matter how adjusting she is, will remain a Daughter in Law but can never be a Daughter..So, Dont expect Much just perfrom yur duties and be happy
• We cannot please everybody..Certain people have few things set in mind and no one can beat the already set Benchmark.... When compared dont loose your temper and mind too.
• There is a saying which goes. "If you want to please everyone, you will please none" so why try to??